I'm f*cking pissed [Archive]

Amorok

03-13-2009, 12:25 PM

So, I have to go on leave starting tomorrow. I'm taking my boy, who is 2 1/2 to see his great-grandfather before Grandad starts his next round of chemo. I know it's the right thing to do but this is bullshit. Some of you know but I fucking hate going home on leave. Nothing good happened to me when I lived there and bad things continue to happen when I go home. Plus, I barely know my family and don't get along with them at all, but they constantly hassle me to go there. This is going to be a miserable week because:

1) Ulu and I have the week off next week. Instead of going out on the boat or riding, we're going to spend the week getting judged by my religious fanatic mother. We're spending our one vacation together doing things we hate, in a place we hate, with people we hate.

2)I'm missing two Patriot Guard Rides, one for a guy I knew. I feel terrible missing these, and everybody knows it.

3) I'm missing the monthly combat shoot at the local range for the second month in a row.

4) I need to help Ebbs move, but I'll be gone instead.

5) A friend needs help getting a tree out of his yard and he doesn't have a chainsaw, but I'll be gone.

6) It's going to cut into my rally money.

I'm really unhappy. Sorry for bitching but thanks for listening.

Archren

03-13-2009, 12:35 PM

If it were me... I'd say spend one or two days out there (in a hotel).. go visit your grandfather.. and then go home. No need to make yourself miserable for something that your son probably doesn't really understand anyway, and I imagine your grandfather would be grateful to see you even if it's only for a couple of days.

Just my :2cents:... but then my mom pissed me off pretty bad last night, and my siblings were being borderline douchebags in regards to the spreading of my dad's ashes, so I'm not exactly family friendly right now. :lol:

Papa_Complex

03-13-2009, 12:36 PM

Do you like your grandfather, or was he part of all the rest of it? I feel that just because you can't choose your family, that doesn't mean that you're necessarily stuck with them. If no one there particularly means anything to you, don't go.

wildchild

03-13-2009, 01:23 PM

I've been known to miss family events that were considered essential. That's probably one of those reasons for me being the black sheep. If you don't enjoy their company then fuk 'em.

Then again I was considered weird because I moved to Tenn where I had no friends or family and considered even more disturbed because I enjoyed it. I can do without the drama. Funny how the family tends to tone down their crap after you shut them out for a couple years. Now days I visit now and then.

MILK

03-13-2009, 01:27 PM

Well at least you have a place to vent. :lol:

It could be worse, my father in law moved so close to us you can see his house from mine. He's an *insert bad word of choice* too. He sees my son the least of all the grandparents -even though neither of my parents even live in the same town.. Though to be honest I wish he'd go away and stay away.

smileyman

03-13-2009, 02:30 PM

Life indeed sux! But when you stop and think about it, things happen randomly that sometimes give us a break. Yeah most times you never realize it...Not until a misfire kills someone at the range, or a DWI runs over a bunch of patriot riders.

Chances are you will never know what the other potential outcomes are but you might just be shuffled out of harms way. I get so pissed myself when something dissapointed or unexpected happens to ruin my plans, but then I stop and have to wonder, maybe just maybe, for the best:idk:

Archren

03-13-2009, 02:36 PM

Amorok

03-13-2009, 02:38 PM

G-Rex

03-13-2009, 03:15 PM

Granddad is cool, he hasn't been good or bad to me but I respect him for who he is. I just hate going to my hometown and being around everyone there. But it is nice to vent.

I've decided we're coming back on Wednesday, after all (thanks archren). So we won't miss the entire week together.

And I forgot to add 7) I'M MISSING OUT ON STEAK AND BLOWJOB DAY!!!

Hopefully you'll enjoy at least a couple of days with your wife and son on vacation without all the others around.

And if it's any consolation, I'm going to miss out on the steak part. :lol:

Archren

03-13-2009, 03:16 PM

Hopefully you'll enjoy at least a couple of days with your wife and son on vacation without all the others around.

And if it's any consolation, I'm going to miss out on the steak part. :lol:

I thought you said you were getting steak fajitas. :scratch:

And you better watch what you say... or you won't get either! redflip

azoomm

03-13-2009, 03:51 PM

So, i'm not the only one happy to live 1200 miles away from family?

Amorok

03-13-2009, 03:55 PM

Hopefully you'll enjoy at least a couple of days with your wife and son on vacation without all the others around.
No, this is one of the things I hate most. My mom, who I don't like, will try to take over our lives until we snap and walk out. Until then wshe'll hover over us, demand shit, not let us go anywhere on our own unless we leave Poot in her care, and drive the boy nuts from too much attention and commotion. It's exhausting.
And if it's any consolation, I'm going to miss out on the steak part. :lol:
I know you'll be shocked Tracy, but I'm actually not consoled at all. In fact I'm so amazingly not consoled it blows my mind, which is the only thing blown in my house for the last couple of months. And I won't get steak, because my wife doesn't like red meat, my dad eats at the fire house, and my mom can't eat anything too heavy on her stomach on account of the 20 or 30 pills she takes A DAY. They're not illegal drugs, just vitamins, supplements, herbal concoctions, fat burners, and prescribed pain pills, all of which are supposed to help her with the crippling effects of her "fibromyalgia." This is a bullshit, fictional disease used by hypochondriacs to justify being whiny, PITA wastes of human life while they guilt people into doing shit for them. Fuck, it's going to be a rough four days.

KSGregman

03-13-2009, 04:06 PM

If you are true in your convictions on the subject and really don't want the drama, just don't go.

Simple.

:idk:

Amorok

03-13-2009, 04:09 PM

I can't not go. Granddad is already looking forward to seeing the boy, and I don't want to dissappoint the old guy. Plus, I already said I would go, so I have to go. And besides, it isn't my convictions that make me want to stay away from there, it's bad memories and shitty people I don't like. If dislikes pass for convictions I guess you're right, but they really don't.

cuttle

03-13-2009, 04:14 PM

So, i'm not the only one happy to live 1200 miles away from family?

1200 miles isn't that bad - try 4600 miles... :panic:

But, I'll be going tomorrow!!! :rockout: it's about time, I haven't been "home" in 3 years. Besides "hosting" my moms 70th birthday, we'll be going to Prague for a few days, probably Munich, and a way cool Motorcycle museum. Plus we'll have to attend a huge party my friend organizes for me - with a bunch of peeps I haven't seen in 15-20 years. :beers:

Later folks!!!

Archren

03-13-2009, 04:17 PM

1200 miles isn't that bad - try 4600 miles... :panic:

But, I'll be going tomorrow!!! :rockout: it's about time, I haven't been "home" in 3 years. Besides "hosting" my moms 70th birthday, we'll be going to Prague for a few days, probably Munich, and a way cool Motorcycle museum. Plus we'll have to attend a huge party my friend organizes for me - with a bunch of peeps I haven't seen in 15-20 years. :beers:

Later folks!!!

Have fun!! :rockout:

Amber Lamps

03-13-2009, 05:41 PM

Yea we have this in common,I despise everyone in my family as well and I don't talk to any of them either. In fact,they don't have the slightest clue where I live now. Back when I first joined the Army,my Mom had the Red Cross track me down because she had no idea where I was. If it were me,I'd get a motel,visit Gramps and blow out of there with little or no contact with the rest of those people!

rogue

03-13-2009, 05:46 PM

As far as I'm concerned, I only have 2 people left in my family, my younger brother and my aunt (my mom's sister). I told the rest of the family (aunts, uncles, cousins, half brother, etc) they could kiss my ass long time ago. The only one I've heard from in years is my half brother and the only reason he called was because he's in jail and wanted shit. :rolleyes:

I'm with Tigger and everyone else. Hotel room, visit Gramps and call it a day.

'73 H1 Triple

03-13-2009, 10:03 PM

I'm with Tigger and everyone else. Hotel room, visit Gramps and call it a day.

BINGO You get to see Grandpa, Grandpa sees your boy and it's stress free for you :dthumbs:

Life is way too short to put up with unnecessary bullshit. Enjoy your time with Grandpa and leave. You're an adult, make up your own rules.

Jeff

Cutty72

03-13-2009, 11:21 PM

I can help for #'s 4, 5, and 7

4. Ebbs is a loser, make him move his own shit.

5. Let your friend borrow your chainsaw before you leave.

7. Road head. It rocks. Then stop at a steak place on the way and order your wife a salad. :D

azoomm

03-13-2009, 11:22 PM

1200 miles isn't that bad - try 4600 miles...[/threadjack]

I'm sorry, did I in ANY way imply that it was BAD?? I don't get along with some of my family. So, I don't go there. The phone and travel ability goes both ways.... amazing how that doesn't seem to happen either.

I adore my little sis, and she is on her way here NOW. The rest... eh.

Hotels are a beautiful thing - it means when you are done, you LEAVE. It isn't rude. In fact, it's more polite that way. And, I don't go anywhere out of guilt or obligation.

Amber Lamps

03-13-2009, 11:29 PM

I'm sorry, did I in ANY way imply that it was BAD?? I don't get along with some of my family. So, I don't go there. The phone and travel ability goes both ways.... amazing how that doesn't seem to happen either.

I adore my little sis, and she is on her way here NOW. The rest... eh.

Hotels are a beautiful thing - it means when you are done, you LEAVE. It isn't rude. In fact, it's more polite that way. And, I don't go anywhere out of guilt or obligation.

Exactly. Fuck the "guilt trip"...

Mr Lefty

03-13-2009, 11:32 PM

well... I love my family... and we get along great when we've got at least an hour or so between us... but get us together... I'll go crazy in 12hrs...

it's weird... I have all the patients in the world for most everyone... but my fuck'n family just drives me insane... and what's worse is I KNOW it's me over reacting about it... but I can't help it... and I hate it.

so I rarely visit... but call often enough.

I hope the trip goes well... I know ya offered... but as for help'n me move... don't worry about it... I've only got like 10 totes of shit... and a bed and dresser. the dresser is the only thing I'd need help with... and I'll probably just leave that in the garage untill I can get a hand carry'n it up the stairs.

oh and you do know steak and blow job day does happen in every time zone right? so you're not really gonna miss it :lol:

Amorok

03-14-2009, 11:28 PM

No, I'm definitely missing it. I'm here now, and the drinking has begun. Poot's having fun though. Still up at 2300, tomorrow's going to kick ass. I feel hungrytiredhornynaseous.

rogue

03-14-2009, 11:29 PM

No, I'm definitely missing it. I'm here now, and the drinking has begun. Poot's having fun though. Still up at 2300, tomorrow's going to kick ass. I feel hungrytiredhornynaseous.

:lol: Poor Amorok :lol:

Amorok

03-15-2009, 08:47 PM

Oh man does this suck. Family over all day, wore us out. Got to see Granddad though. Hammered all day, feel like Hasselhof looks (Henry Rollins reference) can't wait until Wednesday. Police have already fucked with me, cocksuckers don't get I don't want to be here. God, Ashland sucks.

Papa_Complex

03-15-2009, 09:29 PM

Sounds like it's time to receive an emergency call from home.

Mr Lefty

03-15-2009, 09:32 PM

I could call ya from base... As an excuse come home

azoomm

03-16-2009, 11:29 AM

I could call ya from base... As an excuse come home

Dooooo iiiiitttttttt.

Or, he could grow a pair and leave....

Amorok

03-16-2009, 12:24 PM

Papa_Complex

03-16-2009, 12:31 PM

As you say, the right thing to do and you're the only one who can determine when that duty has been met.

azoomm

03-16-2009, 01:21 PM

Meh, one of my buddies already called me about UCC procedures, apparently they're having an excercise.I'mnot here because I don't have a set on me Mioira, I'm here because it's the right thing to do. It sucks,but I'm trying to be cool to my family.

Nah, it's alright. We all have our limits... and I get it.

I've gotten to the point with my family that I won't take it anymore. My mother has no filter and it's not rude anymore - it's beyond it. It is my hope you don't get to the point I'm at... it's sad. :(

Archren

03-16-2009, 01:24 PM

Nah, it's alright. We all have our limits... and I get it.

I've gotten to the point with my family that I won't take it anymore. My mother has no filter and it's not rude anymore - it's beyond it. It is my hope you don't get to the point I'm at... it's sad. :(

My mom's lack of filter is pissing me off lately.. when she starts comparing Tracy to the ex for no reason other than he is of the same gender (making comments like "why spend so much on a wedding if it isn't going to last anyway?").. TO Tracy no less.. yeah. :rant:

I love my mom, but the last 6 months have been a stark reminder of why I can't live with her.

Mr Lefty

03-16-2009, 02:04 PM

My mom's lack of filter is pissing me off lately.. when she starts comparing Tracy to the ex for no reason other than he is of the same gender (making comments like "why spend so much on a wedding if it isn't going to last anyway?").. TO Tracy no less.. yeah. :rant:

I love my mom, but the last 6 months have been a stark reminder of why I can't live with her.

wow... words like that would get her an all expense paid trip outta my life... sorry... but either be happy for me or fuck off... :idk:

Amber Lamps

03-16-2009, 06:33 PM

wow... words like that would get her an all expense paid trip outta my life... sorry... but either be happy for me or fuck off... :idk:

I'm with you there buddy! My family has already gone on that trip... it is sad sometimes but a few depressing holidays is MUCH better than dealing with these assholes the other 354 days a year!

Angee

03-16-2009, 10:28 PM

Good Lord, don't get me started on mine...the first words out of her mouth when I told her she was gonna be a grandmother was "Greeeat, THAT'S what you need, a baby.". When the youngest was born, same basic thing adding the word "another" in the sentence...now she's mad because I moved 1,000 miles away and I can't bring them to see her...I'm sorry, but I'm not flying home just to spend the entire time I'm there on the road driving the four hours round-trip to listen to her and my step-dad bitch at each other...families...uggghhh!