How many SO's have you lived with?

[CrazyKell]

Personally I don't want to live with someone before I'm married but I know most people don't do it that way.

Of course, I've never actually had what i would call a significant other.

So I'm wondering...how many SO's have you lived with?

[Rider]

1, the current one.

[Ninjakel]

2.

My ex-husband and now Leon.

[rogue]

2 - I was married to both.

[CrazyKell]

Okay I should've said UN-married. I just assumed if you were married you were living together! :screwy: :rofl:

Did you live together before you were married?

[Archren]

I've only lived with one boyfriend (who I didn't end up marrying). My ex and I were married before we actually *lived* together.

And even though Tracy and I are engaged and do plan on living together at some point... well, the economy is keeping him in OKC for the time being. :(

[Rider]

Okay I should've said UN-married. I just assumed if you were married you were living together! :screwy: :rofl:

Did you live together before you were married?

Nope, we moved in together when we got back from the honeymoon. I spent the night over there many times.. well almost every night but we didn't officially move in together until after the wedding.

[Dragonpaco]

1. big ass fucking mistake

[rogue]

Okay I should've said UN-married. I just assumed if you were married you were living together! :screwy: :rofl:

Did you live together before you were married?

I lived with one before we were married.

Better? redflip

[Switch]

Zero. You crazy asses.

[Lucky3623]

3 technically, the last one has been the best, so I will keep her around for a while.

one just "roomed" with me until she decided to go back home.

[CrazyKell]

Zero. You crazy asses.

That's what I say! :rockout:

I mean, the ideal situation for me would be separate residences....maybe side by side with an attached walkway! :idk:

[Ninjakel]

Okay I should've said UN-married. I just assumed if you were married you were living together! :screwy: :rofl:

Did you live together before you were married?


I lived with my ex husband before marriage

and leon and I aren't married yet.

so yes to both.

[askmrjesus]

You didn't specify whose SO, so I'm going with 5 total.

JC

[Riceaholic]

Two. One was fantastic...the other not so much.

[the chi]

1-the one I am currently married to. Tho I didnt admit we were even a couple till I had taken over the closet and we "officially" lived together. :wink: TBH, the repercussions of "living in sin", etc never even crossed my mind till someone mentioned them to me. :shrug:

[R6Chick]

3... it helped me from making 2 big mistakes.

[cbrchick]

Only one...

I moved into his house in November, we were engaged the following Feb.

[marko138]

One. My wife. We lived together in college. Bought our house when we were engaged.

[buzzcutt2]

Zero :gtfo:

[anthonyk]

Two. Broke it off with one after 5 years, married the other one.

[BobTheBiker]

so far? NONE. I've never found a person yet that I feel is worth living with, or that I like enough. one day.

[Yamerhaw]

4 i think:idk:

[TYEster]

1 - and we be current.

And the way I see it, you probably SHOULD live with someone before marrying, because like the no-sex thing, you might want to "test drive the car before legally binding yourself to it".

[Phenix_Rider]

so far? NONE. I've never found a person yet that I feel is worth living with, or that I like enough. one day.

Yep same here.

If we had lived together, things would probably have ended much faster with my ex. She was a slob- great girl, but you had to wade through the clothes on the floor of her room.

[lauralynne]

I lived with my ex husband before we got married and I live with Louie now.

[Amorok]

I lived with Ulu before we got married and I really wish we hadn't. It made for more stress and caused some huge problems. Of course, I hate living with anyone, so maybe I'd feel that way no matter what. No others, I really hate sharing closets and bathrooms.

[Homeslice]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.

[racedoll]

I lived with one.

Erik moved in with me after we got engaged and were being marrried in just a few months.

[derf]

3, and one of them I found that I hated once we lived together, the other turned out to be a heroine addict, and I only found out once she couldnt hide it from me.

[askmrjesus]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.

My first wife and I, had a "Bi-Coastal" relationship. I lived in LA, she lived in New York.

I eventually talked her into moving in with me in LA.

Six months later, we were divorced. :lol:

JC

[Adeptus_Minor]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.

I tend to agree.
Of course, there are those who say being married changes things, but I just can't see it.

One of my ex-gf's lived with me for a couple of months when she moved to Austin and didn't have her own place yet.
I've had others stay with me for varying periods of time but I think that particular one was the longest.

[Frostz28]

Ive lived with one, and am currently married to her. Like someone said everyone is diffrent but ill just say this you learn A LOT about a person when you move in with them. Things that you wouldn't otherwise know, and in my opinion could be a HUGE problem if you were already married.

[AquaPython]

im on #2. i dont see how you could really know a person by not doing it...

[2up]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.

I concure wholeheartedly. Although, living with them before doesn't mean you know everything you need to. Things can change either way. To answer the question though, I've lived with all of my "serious" SO's. One ex-husband, one ex-fiance, one ex-boyfriend (I kind of lived with him, had a home elsewhere but for the last 5 months or so of our one year relationship was always at his place) and lived with my current husband before we got married.

[Flexin]

1. I would want to live with someone before getting married. You can learn a lot about someone living with them. I wouldn't want to find some of these things out after signing on the dotted line.

James

[Cutty72]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.

I agree completely. I would never marry a woman that I hadn't lived with for awhile.

There are things you can hide for a few days.
There are things you can hide for a few weeks.
Possibly even things you can hide for a few months.
Living together is the best way to get a chance to find out those little things and decide if they are deal breakers or not, BEFORE it's "too late"

So yes, I've lived with 1 SO, the current one, commonboys.

[Dave]

one the current one. and i agree. better to know before you gotta give up half!

[Flexin]

I lived with Ulu before we got married and I really wish we hadn't. It made for more stress and caused some huge problems. Of course, I hate living with anyone, so maybe I'd feel that way no matter what. No others, I really hate sharing closets and bathrooms.

What about living together before being married made it worse. Anything bad that would happen during that time, could keep me from popping the question.

James

[Adeptus_Minor]

What about living together before being married made it worse. Anything bad that would happen during that time, could keep me from popping the question.


I've gotta wonder about that too.
What about marrying a person makes them any different than the person they were before you married them?
There are those who believe that making the commitment to a person before you co-habitate makes you more tolerant of whatever they bring into the marriage.
Then again, there are also those who think that having a child makes the baby vomit not icky and their cries music to your ears in a crowded restaurant.

[Flexin]

I've gotta wonder about that too.
What about marrying a person makes them any different than the person they were before you married them?
There are those who believe that making the commitment to a person before you co-habitate makes you more tolerant of whatever they bring into the marriage.
Then again, there are also those who think that having a child makes the baby vomit not icky and their cries music to your ears in a crowded restaurant.


That last part made me laugh. I had to clean up my sons vomit tonight and it wasn't great. And the cries today made me want to rip my hair out.

James

[Mr Lefty]

Nope

[wildchild]

1 and I'll never do it again if I get out of this one alive. Won't ever get married.

[Lucky3623]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.


I always said it is like buying a car... you wouldn't buy it without test driving it, right?

[CrazyKell]

Everyone is different but for me living together is like marriage....and I just don't want to do it until I'm actually married. :idk:

I think anything I'd find out about that person in the course of our relationship would be enough. It's not like I'm going to end a perfectly good relationship because he can't put his socks in the hamper? :screwy:

It's kind of like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".

[Archren]

Everyone is different but for me living together is like marriage....and I just don't want to do it until I'm actually married. :idk:

I think anything I'd find out about that person in the course of our relationship would be enough. It's not like I'm going to end a perfectly good relationship because he can't put his socks in the hamper? :screwy:

It's kind of like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".

Well, I didn't find out just how ridiculously OCD my ex was until he and I started living together.. not a dealbreaker in and of itself necessarily, but one more nail in the coffin, if you will. It was also at that point that I found out he was a nudist (and an exhibitionist one at that). Or when we had arguments and I wanted to leave the house (to go somewhere else to calm down since he would follow me to every room trying to continue the fight), he would lock me in. :panic: You know, those little things... :lol:

[Particle Man]

None until I got married.

[Krabill]

2

I wound up marrying the second one.

[dReWpY]

one, the current and one and only, better half on two wheels

[Sixxxxer]

Everyone is different but for me living together is like marriage....and I just don't want to do it until I'm actually married. :idk:

I think anything I'd find out about that person in the course of our relationship would be enough. It's not like I'm going to end a perfectly good relationship because he can't put his socks in the hamper? :screwy:

It's kind of like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".

Yeah But Shit is Different when you wake up everyday in the same House as someone else...Like Me, I put shit where I KNOW Ill find it...Then Little Miss comes along as says, THAT DOESNT GO THERE ZOMG WTF BAHHHHHHHHHH and puts it in a diff spot...And Im lost for 5 minutes tearing through the house looking for my shit because its not where I left it.

I dunno...I wouldn't marry someone without living together...And Im not religious so the whole living in sin thing can lick my balls.

[julie j]

My husband I moved in together after 5 months of knowing each other. I was 18, he was 19. We did not get married until 9 years later and this year is our 20th year together. :rockwoot: I think couples should live together before marriage but they don’t have to do it for 9 years. :lol:

[Quick281]

1 and that was the only one. Dated for about 4 years, 1 in highschool and 3 in college. The 3 years in college we lived together until she decided she needed time (see: sleep with town).

Then she moved out, my rent went way the fuck back up and I became a much happier independent person.

[Trip]

zero til I got married, I never even had a roommate. Fuck living with other people, they just piss you off. My wife is lucky I live with her.

[HurricaneHeather]

My hubby and I didn't live together until we were married. So none for me :)

I don't think there is a magic formula for how long you should do this and that for your relationship to last. I think every relationship is different.

I get kinda offended when people say that you should live together before you get married. Just because that's what worked for you doesn't mean that's what will work for everyone. :idk:

For my relationship, I know that had we been just living together and not married when things got rough we would have given up. But because getting a divorce was much more involved than just moving out, we stuck it out. And had we not we would have been missing out on the great relationship we have now. :D

[Tmall]

2. Glad I lived with the fiance before we were married. It was a lot cheaper to realize how retarded somebody can be when you live with them.

Kell, I don't think you realize how much you can despise somebody you used to love because of the things you don't know they did when you weren't around.

[skiergirl]

I lived with 2 Ex-boyfriends in the past and am glad I did. You do learn a lot more about a person when you share the same space 24/7. I wouldn't even consider marrying someone I didn't live with first.

And for many that think they are so used to living alone how could I ever live with someone, why would I want too etc.? When you find the RIGHT person it's makes all the difference, you want them there...

I currently live with my boyfriend and we are as happy now, if not more, as before we moved in.

[Homeslice]

The older you get, the more set in your ways you become. So for people like me who are old, lol.......I would be very nervous about getting married and then learning something about her or me that causes the marriage to break down.

I can see how waiting until after the wedding makes things seem more "special". My sister lived with someone for 5-6 years before marrying him, and I kind of wondered how special the wedding could possibly be after all that time. But IMO it's better than having to break your vows because you didn't know enough about yourself or your SO.

[skiergirl]

Very True! but when you find the right person you can be more willing to make small changes than you think. One thing I will say is its easier if you are both moving into a new place together than one of you moving in with the other. You have your territory sort of 'claimed' at that point and someone moving things around might bother some people. A new place means no existing habits are formed yet and you can do that together.

But if it's meant to work then it will work whether you live together or not

[cuttle]

Never buy a cat in a bag....

[MILK]

Everyone is different but for me living together is like marriage....and I just don't want to do it until I'm actually married. :idk:

I think anything I'd find out about that person in the course of our relationship would be enough. It's not like I'm going to end a perfectly good relationship because he can't put his socks in the hamper? :screwy:

It's kind of like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".

Totally agree Kel. I lived with someone for 7 years. I can't remember at what point he asked me to marry him but it was pretty far into it. By the time he finally asked me I didn't want to anymore. :idk: I gave him his ring back and moved out.

[Flexin]

Everyone is different but for me living together is like marriage....and I just don't want to do it until I'm actually married. :idk:

I think anything I'd find out about that person in the course of our relationship would be enough. It's not like I'm going to end a perfectly good relationship because he can't put his socks in the hamper? :screwy:

It's kind of like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".

There are so many things you don't see about a person when you don't live together. It can be much more then just socks on the floor. It could be 10-15 things that just drive you crazy. In the beginning its not to bad its just something small. Have a bad week at work, your SO just getting on your nerves for something to do, 10-15 of your pet peeves that your SO does and it can become a big problem. It goes from oh he just leaves his dirty socks on the floor every now and then to "If that mofo leaves one more Fing sock on the floor I'm going to choke his lazy ass with it!!!"

There are some things that are easy to put up with. Somethings are not so easy. And I'm not even talking about sex in any of this. On a date you see the best of someone. If they are an asshole on a date run as fast as you can because most people are not the same person when they get home.

Take me for example.

I get pissed if I step on things. When we lived with Lisas parents the room we were in was crowded. Many times I would wake up and when I would put my foot down I would step on something or kick something.

When we moved in the house I didn't want a coffee table and said we couldn't get one. I said I want to be able to do a kart wheels in every room.

I hate all her make up and blow dryers and everything laying around in the bathroom.

Another thing about me is I walk around naked a lot. Some people would hate that. On a date I would be dressed.

One thing my wife loves about me is I never leave piss or hair on the toilet. Thats something that drives her crazy and could have been a deal breaker.

It might seem like I'm joking around but I'm not. I would not want to marry someone without living with them first. Thats when you find out who they really are, if your compatible and if you could put up with that person for the rest of your life.

And spending weekends with them is not enough IMO. You need at least a few months. If your still in that date mode your not seeing 100% off that person.

I just couldn't do it.

And I was kinda seeing someone for a long time without living with her. That pretty much stayed in date mode that whole time because of that. It makes things fun that way but there is a lot you don't learn about that way.

James

[Flexin]

Totally agree Kel. I lived with someone for 7 years. I can't remember at what point he asked me to marry him but it was pretty far into it. By the time he finally asked me I didn't want to anymore. :idk: I gave him his ring back and moved out.

Why? Because he waited so long? What if he only waited a year or two? Or was it that by that time you knew the real him and decided that you didn't care for him anymore?

James

[Flexin]

Yeah But Shit is Different when you wake up everyday in the same House as someone else...Like Me, I put shit where I KNOW Ill find it...Then Little Miss comes along as says, THAT DOESNT GO THERE ZOMG WTF BAHHHHHHHHHH and puts it in a diff spot...And Im lost for 5 minutes tearing through the house looking for my shit because its not where I left it.

I dunno...I wouldn't marry someone without living together...And Im not religious so the whole living in sin thing can lick my balls.

That drives me nuts. I always have so much on my mind that I want things in one spot. My keys go in a spot. My watch had a spot. My cell phone has a spot as well. They each have to be in a certain pocket when I carry them as well. I was pissed and couldn't find something one day. My pants had everything in the pockets before I put them on. My wife took something out and put it back in the wrong pocket. I freaked at first because I thought I lost it. Its a small thing but its a pain in the ass. She losses her keys all the time because she has about 10 spots for them.

Speaking of keys I can't find my keys to my garage. I had them when I did my oil change in the truck and now they are missing. I'm sure I put them back or had them in my pants pocket. I hate looking for keys. :panic:

James

[zed]

Yeah But Shit is Different when you wake up everyday in the same House as someone else...Like Me, I put shit where I KNOW Ill find it...Then Little Miss comes along as says, THAT DOESNT GO THERE ZOMG WTF BAHHHHHHHHHH and puts it in a diff spot...And Im lost for 5 minutes tearing through the house looking for my shit because its not where I left it.

I dunno...I wouldn't marry someone without living together...And Im not religious so the whole living in sin thing can lick my balls.

didn't know you lived here too. LOL

actually mine has been known to throw it out without saying anything first.

oh, on the topic: think 4

[Flexin]

The whole space thing is easy to solve. Live together. If it doesn't work out then split. If it does work out then stay together and get married (if you want to be married. I still don't feel that people NEED to be married). After the wedding move into or buy a new place. Then you had your time with someone to know if you want to be with them or not. Then after marriage you have your new place to call your own.

James

[OneSickPsycho]

Two... Prolly a third in the relatively near future... Only problem has been breaking up... then again, if you're with someone for a long time it's a bitch either way...

[OneSickPsycho]

There are so many things you don't see about a person when you don't live together. It can be much more then just socks on the floor. It could be 10-15 things that just drive you crazy. In the beginning its not to bad its just something small. Have a bad week at work, your SO just getting on your nerves for something to do, 10-15 of your pet peeves that your SO does and it can become a big problem. It goes from oh he just leaves his dirty socks on the floor every now and then to "If that mofo leaves one more Fing sock on the floor I'm going to choke his lazy ass with it!!!"

There are some things that are easy to put up with. Somethings are not so easy. And I'm not even talking about sex in any of this. On a date you see the best of someone. If they are an asshole on a date run as fast as you can because most people are not the same person when they get home.

Take me for example.

I get pissed if I step on things. When we lived with Lisas parents the room we were in was crowded. Many times I would wake up and when I would put my foot down I would step on something or kick something.

When we moved in the house I didn't want a coffee table and said we couldn't get one. I said I want to be able to do a kart wheels in every room.

I hate all her make up and blow dryers and everything laying around in the bathroom.

Another thing about me is I walk around naked a lot. Some people would hate that. On a date I would be dressed.

One thing my wife loves about me is I never leave piss or hair on the toilet. Thats something that drives her crazy and could have been a deal breaker.

It might seem like I'm joking around but I'm not. I would not want to marry someone without living with them first. Thats when you find out who they really are, if your compatible and if you could put up with that person for the rest of your life.

And spending weekends with them is not enough IMO. You need at least a few months. If your still in that date mode your not seeing 100% off that person.

I just couldn't do it.

And I was kinda seeing someone for a long time without living with her. That pretty much stayed in date mode that whole time because of that. It makes things fun that way but there is a lot you don't learn about that way.

James

Werd. My most serious relationship was done in by us living together... THANK GOD we didn't get married. The other one would have ended the same way and probably at the same time even without living together... Just the way it goes.

Honestly, I like living with my SO. Makes things so much easier in a lot of ways. Generally speaking one or the other always spends the night some place anyway...

[Ducati Diva]

one...... Jeeps and I have lived together for a ltl over 2 years now. It works for us so I really don't worry what anyone else things. Besides everyone calls us husband and wife anyway:lol:

[t-homo]

one...... Jeeps and I have lived together for a ltl over 2 years now. It works for us so I really don't worry what anyone else things. Besides everyone calls us husband and wife anyway:lol:

Lol. I thought you were husband and wife.:leaving: (Good god drewpy, I had to search for 5 minutes to find that smiley.)

[Captain Morgan]

zero

[Ducati Diva]

Lol. I thought you were husband and wife.:leaving: (Good god drewpy, I had to search for 5 minutes to find that smiley.)

we are just not in the eyes of the state.:lol:

[Angee]

Ummm...lemme think....(whispering and counting on fingers...1.....ummmmm.....2...3...(3 was the ex for 14 HELLISH FREAKIN YEARS!!!).....4. I wish I'd never married #3, but rectified that problem 7 years later (we lived together for 7 and stupid ass me still married the SOB :lol:). I'm stopping with 4 because I'm not planning on going anywhere (and hoping he's not either!). :D

[Amber Lamps]

A few and I ready to make it one more if you're game baby!:drool:

[CrazyKell]

Kell, I don't think you realize how much you can despise somebody you used to love because of the things you don't know they did when you weren't around.

This is very true. I know nothing of such things. :idk: I suppose the older I get the more I might be willing to bend my point of view.

[speedylocksmith]

1 wife, 2 others

[HokieDNA01]

2 the previous and the current.

[marko138]

1 - and we be current.

And the way I see it, you probably SHOULD live with someone before marrying, because like the no-sex thing, you might want to "test drive the car before legally binding yourself to it".

You know thats a fact.

[Cutty72]

Two... Prolly a third in the relatively near future... Only problem has been breaking up... then again, if you're with someone for a long time it's a bitch either way...

Holy shit... you found another one that is rating more than just a steel shovel?

[JARVIS518]

just the current one, its been 3 years

[Amber Lamps]

Two... Prolly a third in the relatively near future... Only problem has been breaking up... then again, if you're with someone for a long time it's a bitch either way...

That's the motherfucking truth! Um...so what's this girl like anyway? Hmmmmm.....?

[asdgirl]

2. The ex-boyfriend (together for 11 years) and the current husband. Actually moved in with (okay, he moved in with me) the hubby the day after we met. He lived w/ me on a couch in my roomie's loft apt for 2 weeks while we looked for a place to live. We didn't know what was going to happen but we were both homeless so we had no choice! Seemed it worked out okay :D

[neebelung]

Everyone is different, but for me I can't see marrying anyone without having lived with them first. There are way too many little idiosyncracies and pet peeves that crop up when 2 people share the same space 24/7. You think you know everything about someone but you really don't. Better to discover that stuff before the wedding rather than after.
I agree 100%.

3 for me... College/post-college boyfriend (living together was what made me realize OH FUCK NO, can't do this shit..... :lol:). Dated 4+ years, lived together the last 6 months of that.

Ex-husband (we got engaged either right before or right after we moved in together).

And then Chris (we did live together for a couple years before we got engaged, and since we both lived through it, we decided we might as well make it permanent :lol: )

[NONE_too_SOFT]

This is a shady question. I've had some girlfriends, but i wouldnt consider any of them really significant.

I dont think i'll live with my wife if/when I get married.

[SoFlaSV]

3

The first 2 I threw out of the house after a couple of months, the third one I married. :panic:

Should have thrown her out too.:idk:

[Melissue76]

...............My wife is lucky I live with her.




:lol:


AFM...Only 1, and I lived with him for about 3 years before we were married. & I totally agree w/Homeslice here. Although I think we would've been fine if we waited until we were married. ?!