Playing hard to get?

[MissHell]

Playing hard to get... yes, no, somewhere in between. Saw an article yesterday about it, had different points of views. Thoughts?

[Trip]

Some guys like it, some don't.

I fall into the latter and think it's dumb. I like things straight forward.

[Rider]

Some guys like it, some don't.

I fall into the latter and think it's dumb. I like things straight forward.

I agree. You play hard to get, you'll miss an opportunity. I'm not going to waste my time on anyone who doesn't show interest.

[z06boy]

Some guys like it, some don't.

I fall into the latter and think it's dumb. I like things straight forward.

Agreed

[karl_1052]

Hard to get is an old fashined concept.

If you want somebody, take off the panties and shove them in his jeans pocket.

If he likes you, he will let you know.

[marko138]

Majority rules here.

[goof2]

Playing hard to get... yes, no, somewhere in between. Saw an article yesterday about it, had different points of views. Thoughts?

It depends on what a person wants.

If a girl wants to get laid play easy to get and someone will get hard. Afterward a lot of guys will then play their version of hard to get by not answering their phone or returning calls.

If a girl wants a relationship somewhere in between is probably the best plan. Most guys, myself included, will not put up with the hard to get bullshit. It gets tired pretty damn quick. At the same time I probably don't want to be long term relationship with a girl who was so easy you probably can't throw a rock without hitting someone she banged.

[pauldun170]

I'm married so I'll just make yap pointless nonsense a bits


Define hard to get

We talking bumpin uglies or getting a date....in other word time to getting physical or simpy one on one face time.

If someone feels the need to play hard to get...fuck em and their mind games.
There's a natural flow to a relationship and if someone wants to fuck with that flow to make "the other person work for it" then that someone should either pay me for the work performed or better have a nice dental plan to offer.

However if someone wants to take the relationship slow thats fine.

[derf]

I like a little hard to get, but if I need to do anything more than entertain you for more than a few hours to get you to go out with me then I'm walking to the next girl down the line.

[Homeslice]

Not sure if this is about women or men, but in my experience women seem to enjoy men who act disinterested.

[wildchild]

Some guys like it, some don't.

I fall into the latter and think it's dumb. I like things straight forward.

agree

[Tmall]

Definitely not hard to get. If you're not interested, I'm not waiting around. :lol:

[smileyman]

Get interested or I dont waste my time.

[CrazyKell]

Guys are full of such bullshit.

If you're just looking to get laid there's no point in playing hard to get because you're only after one thing.

But whether guys will admit it or not they like *some* form of chase (girls too in all reality). Where's the thrill of getting something that's easy? It doesn't hold any esteem because it's easy.

Somewhere in the middle depending on the guy and girl. But what no one likes is needy!!!!

[pauldun170]

Guys are full of such bullshit.

If you're just looking to get laid there's no point in playing hard to get because you're only after one thing.

But whether guys will admit it or not they like *some* form of chase (girls too in all reality). Where's the thrill of getting something that's easy? It doesn't hold any esteem because it's easy.

Somewhere in the middle depending on the guy and girl. But what no one likes is needy!!!!

I'm still waiting for an explanation of what's meant by hard to get.

[JARVIS518]

wam bam thank you ma'am and oh ya its not gunna lick itself

[CrazyKell]

I wouldn't know the explanation of it. I guess it would be a sliding scale of not being available to their every whim and fancy. Or maybe you could say making them work for it.

I'm not very good at it and I highly doubt I do it (I certainly don't try). I'm very honest and genuine (to a fault). I would bet on some unconscious level that it turns guys off and all the guys that say they hate hard to get are just full of it. :idk:

[Tmall]

I guarantee, I'm not full of it.


All this time I've been doing it wrong by dating women I hit it off with? When all along I should have been trying harder to get the ones that thought dating was some form of game full of silly tests like playing hard to get?

Nope, men do not like it. I don't know one who does.

[Rembrant]

Strike a middle ground. Let them know you are interested but do let the guy or girl pursue you. The chase does make it worth while but being honest helps to.

[karl_1052]

I wouldn't know the explanation of it. I guess it would be a sliding scale of not being available to their every whim and fancy. Or maybe you could say making them work for it.

I'm not very good at it and I highly doubt I do it (I certainly don't try). I'm very honest and genuine (to a fault). I would bet on some unconscious level that it turns guys off and all the guys that say they hate hard to get are just full of it. :idk:

You couldn't be more wrong. Game playing is for the schoolyard, or the comic book shop after hours.
I am not talking about just sex, any time a woman plays hard to get, I completely lose interest.
I would rather an honest woman, that does not play games.

[Gas Man]

Don't be a whore, just act fucking normal. That way 6 months later I don't find out your a super dumb bitch who's snatch wasn't worth the hassle!!!

[Ducati Diva]

Why play stupid games???? Don't be a "Lindsey" and walk around flashing your kitty to the world, don't be a stuck up bitch who is to good for the world, don't try to play stupid games and be coy, just be yourself. If someone likes you they'll call if not they won't. Games are stupid and usually blow up in your face!

[Avatard]

Playing hard to get... yes, no, somewhere in between. Saw an article yesterday about it, had different points of views. Thoughts?

With me, hard-to-get girls remain un-gotten.

No games, please.

[Trip]

I agree woman who put out too easy are not relationship material. I don't consider not putting out early in a relationship playing hard to get. More like responsibility. When I hear hard to get I think of the fucked up mind games some people play. I was never a big woman chaser because I lack a social capacity for such things. Yea I am a geek and fully aware of those limitations. LOL

[neebelung]

I wouldn't know the explanation of it. I guess it would be a sliding scale of not being available to their every whim and fancy. Or maybe you could say making them work for it.
:idk:

I think the not being available for their every whim is less about playing hard to get, and more about having a life of her own. If a girl (or a guy) is too readily available, it might come across as they don't have friends/interests/life of their own. That might make the interested party think "well crap, if i get involved with them, they're going to suffocate me.... I'll have no time to myself." and it goes both ways... A guy that's too readily available would srnd up the same red flags, IMO.

[neebelung]

I agree woman who put out too easy are not relationship material. I don't consider not putting out early in a relationship playing hard to get. More like responsibility. When I hear hard to get I think of the fucked up mind games some people play. I was never a big woman chaser because I lack a social capacity for such things. Yea I am a geek and fully aware of those limitations. LOL

Well said. :dthumb:

[smileyman]

well playing hard to get and not putting out really should be 2 subjects and 2 threads. My idea of playing hard to get is mind games and doesnt get you anywhere with me.
deciding when to consumate your relationship is a matter of comfort and understanding with both parties. a guy who rushes you to that point is only wanting a fling. decide if you want it and be done.

[Adeptus_Minor]

I agree woman who put out too easy are not relationship material. I don't consider not putting out early in a relationship playing hard to get. More like responsibility. When I hear hard to get I think of the fucked up mind games some people play. I was never a big woman chaser because I lack a social capacity for such things. Yea I am a geek and fully aware of those limitations. LOL

:werd: :dthumb:

If a woman isn't comfortable at least acting interested in me, I'm not going to waste my time or meager self esteem chasing her.
However, I can totally respect a woman who doesn't give up all the goods at the drop of a hat.
The happy medium would be something like not being afraid to offer me a backrub but insisting that I earn the blowjob. :lol:

[Smittie61984]

Not sure if this is about women or men, but in my experience women seem to enjoy men who act disinterested.

Women want what they can't have and if a guy acts like he isn't interested then she gets pissed because she's insecure and wants to know why the guy doesn't want her so then she persues.

I'm too old for useless games.

[Amber Lamps]

Women want what they can't have and if a guy acts like he isn't interested then she gets pissed because she's insecure and wants to know why the guy doesn't want her so then she persues.

I'm too old for useless games.

Yea I know how people perceive me but in all seriousness, you will never deal with someone more straightforward relationship wise than me. I will tell you exactly what I want/need from you. If you are down with that great, if not well there's always the next girl.

[Digifox]

hmmm, dont forget the guys people......but we just play "stubborn" lol.

[itgirl]

Hard to get is an old fashined concept.

If you want somebody, take off the panties and shove them in his jeans pocket.

If he likes you, he will let you know.

:lol: i freakin' love this concept! :D

[Rangerscott]

dumb

[EpyonXero]

hmmm, dont forget the guys people......but we just play "stubborn" lol.

Playing hard to get absolutely works on girls.

[101lifts2]

I like a little hard to get, but if I need to do anything more than entertain you for more than a few hours to get you to go out with me then I'm walking to the next fat girl down the line.

Sounds cool.


Women...if you would just put out more there would be no serial killings and alot less homosexuality. lol

[Amber Lamps]

Sounds cool.


Women...if you would just put out more there would be no serial killings and alot less homosexuality. lol

I don't know... from the girls I've met recently, I don't think that they could put out more. Some girl offeed to blow me in the parking lot last night at the bar, no bs. She was a little chunky but with big tits. I was like um, nah I have a gf. She didn't seem to care... I don't think the problem is lack of sex.

[101lifts2]

I don't know... from the girls I've met recently, I don't think that they could put out more. Some girl offeed to blow me in the parking lot last night at the bar, no bs. She was a little chunky but with big tits. I was like um, nah I have a gf. She didn't seem to care... I don't think the problem is lack of sex.

What if she looked like Megan Foxx...but with bigger tits?

A. She wouldn't have put out.
OR
B. You would have been out some sperm today.

Think about it.

[Gas Man]

I agree woman who put out too easy are not relationship material. I don't consider not putting out early in a relationship playing hard to get. More like responsibility. When I hear hard to get I think of the fucked up mind games some people play. I was never a big woman chaser because I lack a social capacity for such things. Yea I am a geek and fully aware of those limitations. LOL

This is true... still can't figure out how you wrangled in a girl like your wife! :whatwhat:

Yea I know how people perceive me but in all seriousness, you will never deal with someone more straightforward relationship wise than me. I will tell you exactly what I want/need from you. If you are down with that great, if not well there's always the next girl.


This is the best way. Keep it straight forward and simple.

[HurricaneHeather]

I'm too impatient for playing any kind of games, especially hard to get. Every first date I ever went on, I asked him out. :lol: I have no self control really, so if I want something, there will be no doubt in anyone's mind what I want. :shrug:

[the chi]

Why play stupid games???? Don't be a "Lindsey" and walk around flashing your kitty to the world, don't be a stuck up bitch who is to good for the world, don't try to play stupid games and be coy, just be yourself. If someone likes you they'll call if not they won't. Games are stupid and usually blow up in your face!

AWESOME!! I totally agree! And if they arent calling, you dont want them either!

I think the not being available for their every whim is less about playing hard to get, and more about having a life of her own. If a girl (or a guy) is too readily available, it might come across as they don't have friends/interests/life of their own. That might make the interested party think "well crap, if i get involved with them, they're going to suffocate me.... I'll have no time to myself." and it goes both ways... A guy that's too readily available would srnd up the same red flags, IMO.

Also very true. Being available for someones every whim and every phone call does send signals that you arent your own person and you dont have your own things to do. You can hang out with someone often and be available to them (showing interest) without coming across as deperate, stalking or needy.

As for Trip, I bet ya he snagged A because he is exactly the same person all the time, he knows who he is and what he wants. There is nothing more attractive to a mature woman than a guy who is 100% himself and comfortable with being who he is. (aka Confidence)

So all you guys with self image issues, remember that!! No matter if you are losing your hair, have a belly, lack a tan, arent an Abercrombie model-if you are confident in yourself and who you are, those things dont matter and arent even noticeable to the woman who really wants to be with you.

[the chi]

I'm too impatient for playing any kind of games, especially hard to get. Every first date I ever went on, I asked him out. :lol: I have no self control really, so if I want something, there will be no doubt in anyone's mind what I want. :shrug:

:lol: When my hubby and I started talking I actually told him to stop being a girl and just ask me out.

(Someone was playing matchmaker on the sidelines unbeknownst to us both and I finally just asked him out myself as we were getting mixed messages from the other party.)

[CrazyKell]

This is the best way. Keep it straight forward and simple.

This is true and I operate on this principle. But being in the "dating world"....I get really tired of guys who can't handle that from a woman. I don't play games and I'm pretty straight forward about everything (to a fault really).....and I know that I don't want the guys that can't handle it but seriously that bullshit gets old quickly and I'm tired of seeing it. :shrug:

[Particle Man]

This is true and I operate on this principle. But being in the "dating world"....I get really tired of guys who can't handle that from a woman. I don't play games and I'm pretty straight forward about everything (to a fault really).....and I know that I don't want the guys that can't handle it but seriously that bullshit gets old quickly and I'm tired of seeing it. :shrug:
need to hang out with some better guys then

[CrazyKell]

need to hang out with some better guys then

True story but in all honesty....the quality of men out there is weak right now.

Hell quality of PEOPLE has seriously gone down. :(

[Flexin]

Guys are full of such bullshit.

If you're just looking to get laid there's no point in playing hard to get because you're only after one thing.

But whether guys will admit it or not they like *some* form of chase (girls too in all reality). Where's the thrill of getting something that's easy? It doesn't hold any esteem because it's easy.

Somewhere in the middle depending on the guy and girl. But what no one likes is needy!!!!

There is easy, showing interest but not being easy and playing hard to get.

Playing hard to get doesn't get far with me. Well there was this one that happened to stop by the ball court one day years and years ago. She stopped by with this girl I knew. I was in a good mood and hit on her, she cut me up. I laughed my ass off then had fun with it. I hit on her and she would cut me up. This went on for about a half hour then she ended up in my car for a drive. :rockwoot: Turned out she just got out of a long term relationship with a guy I went to school with so I didn't go any farther. I seen her again one night while driving downtown and she was walking with him so I made a good choice.

But normally I won't bother chasing a woman that plays really hard to get. Why waste my time?

If you are interested in someone, show them. You don't have to give it up right away, but just show that your interested.

I normally end up with woman that chase me. If I want to chase anything I will try to get them to bring their friend into the bedroom with them. :rockwoot:

James

[Amber Lamps]

There is easy, showing interest but not being easy and playing hard to get.

Playing hard to get doesn't get far with me. Well there was this one that happened to stop by the ball court one day years and years ago. She stopped by with this girl I knew. I was in a good mood and hit on her, she cut me up. I laughed my ass off then had fun with it. I hit on her and she would cut me up. This went on for about a half hour then she ended up in my car for a drive. :rockwoot: Turned out she just got out of a long term relationship with a guy I went to school with so I didn't go any farther. I seen her again one night while driving downtown and she was walking with him so I made a good choice.

But normally I won't bother chasing a woman that plays really hard to get. Why waste my time?

If you are interested in someone, show them. You don't have to give it up right away, but just show that your interested.

I normally end up with woman that chase me. If I want to chase anything I will try to get them to bring their friend into the bedroom with them. :rockwoot:

James


Yep, I don't chase either. The "it'll be worth so much more if you work/wait for it" mentality is lost on my stupid ass! Trust me if you don't show interest or worse if you reject me, then you get put on the "reject" pile, it is next to impossible to get yourself off the "reject" pile once you are on it. Shit last I knew there were 3 or more single women for every single man in this country so playing hard to get will end up with you playing with yourself!!!!:lol:

[Flexin]

Yep, I don't chase either. The "it'll be worth so much more if you work/wait for it" mentality is lost on my stupid ass! Trust me if you don't show interest or worse if you reject me, then you get put on the "reject" pile, it is next to impossible to get yourself off the "reject" pile once you are on it. Shit last I knew there were 3 or more single women for every single man in this country so playing hard to get will end up with you playing with yourself!!!!:lol:

LOL.

Yes they have to show interest in me. I don't mind them playing hard to get with "goods" I enjoy the forplay.

I had one that would show she was interested online or on the phone. When we were together she didn't seem interested. So I didn't do shit. If she isn't showing me she is interested I'm not pushing myself on her. We were friends so I would still hang out with her. But she would flirt and go on when on the computer or text but she wouldn't say shit when I was there. It took her weeks to get anything pulling that shit. I told she if she wanted it she had to show me when I was there. She got the picture after a while.

She would still play games every now and then so I guess she would be on a "semi-reject" pile. Semi because I'm pretty easy. I cut some off before and they said whatever and stripped me anyway.

James

[Flexin]

BTW I did somewhat chase a few in school. When I think back the only ones I really even close to chased, had boyfriends. I even told a girl that I wanted her while she was walking with her boyfriend. The guy was twice my size want wanted to kick my ass the next day. She ran track with me. One day in gym while stretching she put her ankles beside her head. From that point on I was in love. :lol It was worth a possible ass beating.

James

[Particle Man]

to get my posts back on topic: I'm tired of games, say what you mean.

[Flexin]

Hard to get is an old fashined concept.

If you want somebody, take off the panties and shove them in his jeans pocket.

If he likes you, he will let you know.

Woman take note. Panties in the pocket is a great idea. :rockwoot:

James