Don't use the normal strap-type filter wrench. Use on of the 'import filter' wrenches. It has two curved pieces of metal that grab around the oil filter and a square hole in the end where you can insert a 3/8" ratchet. As you apply torque, the curved pieces tighten.
edit: like this
In the future, buy a K&N oil filter, they have a 17mm nut welded on the end of them so you can tighten and loosen it with a socket. And that nut is pre-drilled for safety wire.