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MILK · 10-20-2011, 03:45 PM

Don't forget to have a will! If both of you die you don't want the state raising your children if you have them.

I am glad this subject came up. I was going to start a similar thread at some point.

Lee, I've had similar thoughts over the years myself. Like many of you I've had umteen million people tell me to quit riding, that motorcycles are dangerous, and their brother, sister, cousin, friend, or mother died on a bike. I know that. I've crashed, had people behind me crash, all the same things most of us already know.

On August 5th my boyfriend was killed in an accident behind his home. He did not die riding. He had 3 children, 10, 8, and 6. We were planning a life together. Over the past 2 months I've watched his house gutted and things sold at auction, attended his funeral, and his truck is in my yard until we can get it sold.

This totally changed my perspective on everything.

3 weeks after his death I sold my bike. Once my son can support himself and doesn't need me so much I will most likely get another bike (if I'm not too old, haha.) I LOVE riding like I think all of us do. But I started thinking... Do I want my ex to have full reign on raising my son? HELL NO. My boyfriend Mark was very adventurous, an outdoorsman, pilot, rode dirt bikes, etc etc and his ex wife is a germaphobe type person who must have everything perfectly in place at all times. But he has no say in that anymore.

Life insurance is no replacement for life experience. His 2 youngest probably won't even remember him very much. They had a BRILLANT father and that pains me so much. Now their step-father - who my boyfriend hated - will be the one walking his daughters down the aisle and teaching his son how to be a man.

I'm not preaching, not really. Besides we've all heard this before. We all know that motorcycles are dangerous. We all know people who've died. I guess what I'm trying to say is take the best care you can, stop riding if you want to, wear your gear, have a WILL, have life insurance and make sure you do everything you possibly can to be around for those you love. You already know all that. So do I and so did Mark.

If this pissed you off, well I'm sorry. I rarely get on any sort of soapbox but I can't help it this time. It's just that after this happened and everything I've been through these past 2 months I realized that it's not about ME - it's about my responsibilities to my son. He needs me and your children need you too.

10-20-2011, 03:45 PM	#13
MILK The cows want you dead. Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2,087	Don't forget to have a will! If both of you die you don't want the state raising your children if you have them. I am glad this subject came up. I was going to start a similar thread at some point. Lee, I've had similar thoughts over the years myself. Like many of you I've had umteen million people tell me to quit riding, that motorcycles are dangerous, and their brother, sister, cousin, friend, or mother died on a bike. I know that. I've crashed, had people behind me crash, all the same things most of us already know. On August 5th my boyfriend was killed in an accident behind his home. He did not die riding. He had 3 children, 10, 8, and 6. We were planning a life together. Over the past 2 months I've watched his house gutted and things sold at auction, attended his funeral, and his truck is in my yard until we can get it sold. This totally changed my perspective on everything. 3 weeks after his death I sold my bike. Once my son can support himself and doesn't need me so much I will most likely get another bike (if I'm not too old, haha.) I LOVE riding like I think all of us do. But I started thinking... Do I want my ex to have full reign on raising my son? HELL NO. My boyfriend Mark was very adventurous, an outdoorsman, pilot, rode dirt bikes, etc etc and his ex wife is a germaphobe type person who must have everything perfectly in place at all times. But he has no say in that anymore. Life insurance is no replacement for life experience. His 2 youngest probably won't even remember him very much. They had a BRILLANT father and that pains me so much. Now their step-father - who my boyfriend hated - will be the one walking his daughters down the aisle and teaching his son how to be a man. I'm not preaching, not really. Besides we've all heard this before. We all know that motorcycles are dangerous. We all know people who've died. I guess what I'm trying to say is take the best care you can, stop riding if you want to, wear your gear, have a WILL, have life insurance and make sure you do everything you possibly can to be around for those you love. You already know all that. So do I and so did Mark. If this pissed you off, well I'm sorry. I rarely get on any sort of soapbox but I can't help it this time. It's just that after this happened and everything I've been through these past 2 months I realized that it's not about ME - it's about my responsibilities to my son. He needs me and your children need you too.